Lucky Charm Milkshake

This weekend was so nice...

~Dog lovin'~

~Yard work~

~Yoga~

~Eating~

On Saturday we had breakfast at the house. 

I made two over-easy eggs, brussel sprout hash and toast.

For lunch we had burgers from Bud's Giant Burgers in Vallejo. 

They are simple burgers on a simple bun but the burger patties are well seasoned and the thinly sliced, white onions bring the whole thing together.

For dinner, Baldo's. 

Its kind of authentic, kind of not. The salsas are homemade and very flavorful. They have a setup of nacho toppings over fries and California burritos for people like me.

I love burritos.

Sunday we searched for some Asian grub. 

More specifically, Vietnamese Pho.

It was EXACTLY what I needed. It has to be spicy enough to  make me sweat. It burned so good..

Tripe, tendon, flank steak, meatballs, chewy noodles, jalapenos, cilantro, bean sprouts, Sriracha and fish sauce.

Along side it is a super strong Vietnamese iced coffee with condensed milk. 

High five to these guys..

Pho Lee Hoa Phat

For dinner, I made vegetarian tacos to try to balance out all the insane gorging that took place previously.

So far I'm finding the cost of tofu or Tofurky products are about the same price, if not cheaper than meat alone.

One problem I have here in Vallejo, California is the access of organic meat. If I want organic meat I have to drive four towns over. Most times, I don't want to.

So vegetarian cooking is the way we go..

Okay..

~The best and MOST IMPORTANT part of my weekend...

LUCKY CHARM MILKSHAKES!~

It was AMAZING!

Lucky Charms now makes Chocolate Lucky Charms. YES.

Chocolate cereal pieces. 

No longer do you have to divide cereal into three bowls.. 

One bowl of cereal, one empty bowl, one bowl for marshmallows.

You take all the marshmallows out of the first bowl and put into an empty bowl, separating marshmallows from cereal pieces. 

Then you pour yourself a new bowl of cereal and add the separated marshmallows on top. 

Discard the bowl of just cereal pieces..

No? You don't do that?

Okay.

So for the milkshake..

4 scoops of vanilla ice cream

1 1/2 cups of CHOCOLATE Lucky Charms

3 ice cubes

1 cup of milk

Blend on high for a smooooooth consistency.

Top with more lucky charms.

I use a Ninja Professional Blender and it works like a charm. 

Happy Monday!!

How we did our mid country road trip.

One of the first things I focused my attention on when we were preparing to move was what we were going to eat on the road. It became quite an obsession..

There are limited food options to choose from when you're trying to maintain good timing, keep your budget on the low end and not gain 5lbs in one week.

I knew with three dogs and space for our suitcases, I couldn't go crazy like I really wanted to.

So here is what I made and brought:

4 quarts of chickpea hummus

1 quart of tuna salad

1 dozen boiled eggs

1 loaf of bread

1 pack of good ol' processed American cheese

1 jar of peanut butter

1 box of cereal

1 container of milk

1 container of cold-pressed coffee

1 bottle of simple syrup

A few bags of Doritos

2 bottles of champagne

Igloo - 60 quart cooler

2 bags of ice

iPhone dock for navigation

Lots of blankets.. mainly for the dogs

2 pillows

An air mattress

Neck pillows.. Extremely helpful

A few books 

1 joint

This took some serious tetris-type maneuvering but I made it work. 

For the dogs we put the backseats forward. This gave them the option to spread out more and even go in the trunk if they wanted to. At first they stayed close to us. By the second day, they were all over the place. They loved it.

 We layered six blankets down so it was comfortable for the dogs to lay on.

We also purchased prescribed puppy Xanax from their vet. Being in the car that long can make anyone go nuts so this helped tremendously.

When traveling with dogs, you should stop to let them out every three to four hours.

We stayed at La Quinta every night. They're dog friendly and were conveniently everywhere. On average we spent $75 - $100 a night for a room. Not too bad.  

The first day was nothing but excitement. The further and further we drove away from home, the more excited I became. 

We're really doing it!

The first hotel we arrived at was quite a show. The dogs were so confused and anxious, when we let them out of the car they nearly ran away. They frantically circled the thankfully, gated parking lot completely bewildered. Even when we got them inside our room and on the bed with us, they were anxious. One thing about dog friendly hotels, there are a lot of other dogs all around you, all barking and crying at every noise. 

I almost ate their Xanax for myself. 

I didn't..

The second day was great. The dogs became more comfortable with traveling and my love and I decided to dig into some podcast options..

Comedy Bang! Bang!

A podcast with Scott Aukerman as the host, where he does hilarious 45 minute conversations with an amazing selection of celebrities, comedians and characters. It is something I can't recommend enough. Driving across the country with your loves in the car, laughing so hard together that you can't breathe is amazing. This made time fly by. 

Okay.. even though I tried to fill the car with awesome snacks, we couldn't eat just those things. We totally ate McDonald's egg McMuffins and coffee for breakfast, Wendy's baked potatoes and chicken sandwiches for lunch and second lunch. Yeah.. I said second lunch. And Sonic cheeseburgers for dinner.

Am I ashamed? No!

It's called survival and not caring too much about the small stuff. We don't normally eat fast food but we did this time. Eating a Sonic cheeseburger after driving all day in your hotel bed after a hot shower.. the best.

Third day.

We made great timing. We drove 10-12 hours most days. 

A total of 2,482 miles and 35 hours.

When we finally reached California we were so excited and nervous. 

That's when everything finally hit me. 

I thought about everyone I left back home. My job, my friends, my co-workers and my family. 

They were so supportive. This was taken the day we left.

We were so excited the closer we got, we turned the radio off and just drove in silence. 

I think I was sitting straight up, leaning over into the dashboard as if I was trying to escape through the windshield.

As you can see, I like to throw up the peace signs.... This is my duck face smile as well.

Podcasts, coffee, snacks, egg McMuffins, breaks to walk around every few hours, 12 hour driving days, positive vibes and 1 joint got us home.

No regrets.

Conversations in the workplace

In a broken whisper.. 

"You went to cooking school? Shhhhhh.."

Me: "Oh, yes. I graduated from there."

"You have resume with cooking experience, I saw.."

"Yes, a little bit."

"Do you want to work for Subway? You could be sandwich artist."

"Oh.. Hmmm.... They're hiring?"

"Yes. Don't tell anyone.. I know the manager and you could be sandwich artist and in a month, manager."

"Wow. Thank you for thinking of me. Can I think about it and get back to you?"

"Shhhhh!"

"Okay..."

"Yes. You think about it. The pay is not good but... you could be sandwich artist. 

Then.. manager."

"Okay.... Thank you.........."

How I got a job with no experience whatsoever

Original Message:

Hi, my name is Bethany Cavender and I'm interested in your position listed on Craigslist. I'm friendly and work hard.

To be quite honest, I've been cooking in the food industry for years. And to be more honest, I'm tired of it. I just moved here with my fiancé from Atlanta, Ga. He's a welder in San Francisco and I've been on a long road to chef-dom.

When I moved here I told myself I'd find something new. I'm in search for a new avenue. I love the idea of working m-f, 9-5 or 6. Or whenever. No I don't have much experience in this position but I am a hard worker, I'm capable, I'm easy to work with and friendly. I just want a reliable job where others can rely on me too.

If interested, I'd love to meet for an interview. I'm always on time, if not a few minutes early.

If you want someone who is hard working and honest, a fast learner and friendly to work for you, please contact me.

          Best!

This is the email I wrote to my current employer... 

How did THIS email help get me a job? How did I get picked out of 15 other applicants with years of experience? 

When I first got the call from my job, I was very surprised. In my email I clearly stated I had no experience for the position whatsoever. I went back and read my original email and laughed out loud.

Why me?

I was very skeptical. Even though I decided not to professionally cook anymore, I kept letting the fact that I was stepping out of my comfort zone be the little devil on my shoulder telling me this will be boring, I will hate every second of this and I should just say I am not interested but thanks anyway.

Sometimes being out of your comfort zone can take you places. Far away places.. like maybe California.

When I went in for my interview I was nervous. My heart was beating out of my chest and I was beyond tense.

One of the many beneficial lessons I get out of yoga is controlling my breath. When I control my breath, I control my heart. And when I control my heart, I control my brain waves. Controlling my brain waves makes me more present. Being present, breathing and listening to your heart beat pushes out the extra noise in and around you.

When I approached the office doors, I stopped before going in. I took a deep breath in and let a deep breath out. I could literally hear my heart beating and ringing in my ears from anxiousness. I stood there and continued to slow down my breath until my breath and heart we working together as one. 

I did not go inside until I had control of my own body.

Sometimes shit happens. Some moments in life can and will have a traumatic impact on you, and creep up on you when you least expect it. Overtime, I have become a nervous person around strangers. It takes me a long time to feel comfortable around people and even longer to invest trust in someone. In past interviews I would freeze up and not be able to finish a sentence I started. I used to not have this problem. I used to be a social butterfly. But things happen. Shit happens. How you deal with pain can change you. 

I highly recommend therapy if you think you need it. 

It changed my life.

Once I entered the office I knew I was ready. I kept concentration on my breathing to keep my heart calm. By the time I sat down to talk, I was ready to kill it. 

My interviewer/now boss was very aware of my no experience email and resume. And of course he asked me why I applied and why I decided to make the change. I simply told him my honest truth. I was wanting a change in scenery. I wanted to experience my life a little more. 

He asked me why I applied to his company. I told him because he posted an ad on Craigslist. That's why.

Then I turned it all around. 

I asked him why he even responded to my email? It's almost comical. Why me?

His response summarized:

My email grabbed him. He read between the lines in my email. 

He said he could relate to where I was at. A time of reflection is an important part of someones life and everybody does it. 

If I'm a point in my life where I need to take a step back and change it up, he knows how that feels. He's been there too. 

 If my resume is all restaurants but I'm applying for an office job, why? He wanted to know. 

Gaining insight from my words, the context of my words and my behavior was what brought everything together. No, I didn't have any experience for position I applied for. But I sold myself in other ways. 

I sold myself. 

My interview was long and I did most of the talking. 

Not one time did I freeze up, choke on my words, hear my voice start to sound like I was in a car on a rocky road... Not one time! 

(this is a record for me so far)

Thank you yoga.

At the end of an interview, the interviewer usually asks if you have any questions. Normally, I say no or just ask what the compensation for the position is. This time I asked many questions. I think turning the interview around to where I was now interviewing him was very smart.

I asked if he had any doubts in my qualifications for the position. What would be my biggest challenge starting out? What are the main concerns for the office right now? What is the compensation??

The ending to this interview fairytale is I got picked out of a group of people with more experience, I think, because of how honest I was and the way I presented myself. I wasn't another drone going in there with a standard resume, being a "yes woman" and answering questions the way I think they would want to hear. 

I  let myself shine through the unqualified applicant I was, and now, I am not.

I want to live in a world of grey.

It's 11:36am on a Tuesday. I've been at work for three hours now. In one hour I take my lunch break and work for three more hours. When 4 o'clock hits, I go home. That's it. I just go home.

When I woke up this morning I checked my nails to make sure the paint remained smooth like it was when I painted them the night before. This, by the way, is not normal. However,  my morning  routine remains the same in any situation.. Three cups of coffee, an over-easy egg on a bagel, english muffin or steel-cut oats. I let my three fury children out, then beg for them to come back inside and then I sit and reflect.

At the point where I decide to start getting ready, I mean taking the physical and cosmetic steps of getting ready for work, is where everything has changed for me. And that's really just the beginning.

The past seven years of my adult life were spent in restaurant kitchens. I was the girl with tattoos, hair hidden away in a bandanna, burn marks up and down her arms and a band-aid somewhere on my body.. I wasn't careless.. I actually cared a lot. I think I was just willing to take a risk in order to get the job done. 

If I knew I needed to put up food at that very moment that the entire range was filled with hot pans on full blast, I was willing to reach into the ripping blue and orange fire in order to retrieve the pan I needed in order to plate the food.

I worked all nights, weekends and holidays. Starting out at 21 years old, this schedule didn't matter to me. I was proud and willing to work any shift to prove myself. I missed out on many holidays, brunches, dinners and time with my family. But when you're young and you just worked a 12 hour shift with your friends in unimaginable conditions, all you want to do is have a beer (or three), go to sleep and do it again.

Being 27 years old now, I decided to leave my kitchen manager/charcutier job in Georgia and move across the country to beautiful California with the love of my life. 

Why?

Why not?! We decided to let go of fear and possible regrets and just do it. We drove for three days across the country with our three dogs in a Toyota Camry and arrived at a house we rented "sight-unseen" with nothing but an air mattress and suitcase. Thankfully the house was as beautiful in person as it looked in pictures. All of our belongings were shipped on a freight and arrived over a month later, half broken and half missing. I got a job as a butcher in Oakland and my love got a job welding in San Francisco. In our first month in California, we both quit our jobs.

We strive for a better life. We moved to California to better ourselves. 

We decided as a team to stay forever skyward.

We both didn't agree with our bosses. We both were tired. We both felt defeated. 

We aren't the type of people to quit. We stick it out! However, this time I reminded myself why we moved and how we got to where we are. Hard work. Sacrifice. Blood. Sweat. Tears. 

To move across the country to better ourselves, only to work for people who have their own ideas of self-respect and worth that aren't of ours, is just not worth it.

My love quit first, and a few weeks later I did too. At the time, it was terrifying. We were scared of so many unknowns. To think that we may have failed or made the wrong decision was tough. But there are some things I learned about myself and him.. When you're completely humbled and brought to your knees, you have two choices. You can give up and ask for someone to take the reigns for you and get you out of the mess you're in. Or you can shake it off, remember who you are and what you take personal pride in, and control your own destiny.

For me, I was at a point where I wanted to see, support and love the one family I have with me here. My fiance.

 Working over 60 hours a week for a jerk wasn't helping me. I took a week and really thought about what was important to me. Yes, my career has always been important to me. 

But as I took time to reflect on myself and the family I have, pursuing a life as a chef just didn't seem to fit. The hours would keep us on opposite schedules. Do I want to move to an unknown place and never see my family? No. Do I want to keep working for asshole chefs that think because I'm the only female in the kitchen, they can treat me like I'm their mom or girlfriend? 

Go away.

Do I want to be home in time to cook for my family, play with my dogs, clean my house, pick up on old hobbies, start new ones, make new friends and keep the ones I have? 

YES!

I decided not to get a cooking job. WHAT?!?! You heard me! 

Is this forever??? 

Nothing is forever. This is for right now. 

I used to live in the past and the future. That way of living is dead to me. I live in the present.

Most people have been encouraging but there are some that gave me a hard time. The people that gave me a hard time are stuck in black and white. 

I want to live in a world of grey.

Today I am happy. I woke up with painted nails and they make me feel pretty. My hair isn't in a tight bun on top of my head and I'm not wearing my grease-stained jeans with my t-shirts that smell like french fries. I'm wearing a blouse and am slowly learning to walk in heels and that alone feels painfully awesome.

When 4 o'clock hits, I leave to go home. It's that simple.  The sun is still out and I do yoga in my backyard while my dogs roll in the grass. My lover comes home and we eat a meal together that I cooked. I cook for a loving and kind man. That makes me smile.

I'll never stop cooking or writing recipes or dream about food. Food is my passion and it always will be. But you see, the best part about this big decision I made is that I'm learning I am a very passionate person about many different things. 

Not just one.